October sheds light on domestic violence

Every year for every month, there is a certain type of health awareness that ties in with a month. Domestic Violence Awareness month is held, which was first observed in October 1981. This is able to spread awareness and advocate across the nation for all to prevent and end domestic violence.  

Those impacted by domestic abuse and violence are not alone. There are many signs of abuse and ways to stop it. Everyone has a story that should be heard and has a voice. Let's make survivors feel less alone. This is not just another month on the calendar; it is a nationwide movement to raise awareness and its impact on individuals and communities.  

This domestic violence not only includes physical abuse, but it includes emotional and financial abuse too. It affects people of all ages and backgrounds, and we need to recognize the signs of unhealthy or toxic relationships to protect ourselves, friends and family. We need to educate those around us and spread the truth and facts that include the signs of an unhealthy friendship or relationship. 

We can all help break the stigma and make it easier for those who are afraid to have a voice to speak up and seek help. It is ok to not be okay and to open up. According to Futures Without Violence, more than 10 million people in the United States have experienced domestic violence. About one in four women and one in seven men will experience physical violence by their partner.  

Domestic violence can occur anytime with anyone regardless of one’s social class, educational background, religion or other categories. Many, particularly men, choose to stay silent and stay with their abusive partner. If you are with anyone who screams at you and yells, lays their hands on you at all or shows any signs of that then leave. There is so much better out there. Domestic violence can be a range of abusive behaviors, physical, emotional, and psychological abuse, which can include sexual and physical violence, stalking and intimate partner violence. 

Across the country various places are taking place to spread awareness and offer much support. There are educational workshops, social media campaigns, awareness walks and more. Many states are implementing programs aimed at educating law enforcement and community leaders on how to respond to domestic violence situations. The Kansas Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence has several resources for survivors. In El Dorado, for instance, the Family Life Center, which serves Butler, Chautauqua, Elk and Greenwood counties, offers resources for survivors.  

As we continue to observe Domestic Violence Awareness month, let's remember that our voices can make a change. By sharing information, educating ourselves and others, we can contribute to a society that stops violence. We can build a future where everyone feels comfortable to have a voice and feel safe because every story matters and every story deserves to be heard.